I could subtitle this: What NOT to do. But you probably already know that, since it’s my mantra. Not really, but really. Oy!
So, after yesterday’s post, I knew it was time to come back to this. And so I did. I opened the book and found the “Tapping Quick Reference Guide”:
- Choose your Most Pressing Issue (MPI).
- Rate your MPI using 0-to-10.
- Craft a setup statement, using your MPI to fill in the blank: “Even though______________, I deeply and completely accept myself.”
- Speak your setup statement three times while tapping on the karate chop point.
- Tap through the eight points in the EFT sequence while saying your reminder phrase out loud. Tap five to seven times at each point, starting with the eyebrow and finishing at the top of the head.
- Take a deep breath.
- Rate the intensity of your MPI using the 0-to-10 scale.
- Repeat, or move on to a different MPI.
Then I went to the first script, which was “I’m stressed out and overwhelmed” and adapted it to my own MPI, which was Hypertension. I carefully wrote the entire script for high blood pressure.
Then I set it all aside to actually DO later in the day.
Except, it occurred to me later, because (of course!) I was still chewing on the idea — chewing, chewing, chewing — and realized that my blood pressure isn’t the MPI, actually, because its only a symptom of the problem that IS: my weight.
It was now almost bedtime and I told myself I’d tackle that script tomorrow, which is to say today.
A funny thing happened on the way to THAT script. I was reading through the book when it occurred to me that my weight had STILL not gotten to the root of my problem, or MPI. Getting to the root of the problem is significant to this program… so much so that they have an actual tree, you know, with roots:
So, as you can see, I was working at the top of the tree… and needed to begin at the bottom.
Also, had I not been skipping here and there through the book, I might also have noticed the most important chapter, at least for me, Chapter 4 – Your Resistance to Change.
Yeah, Chapter 4… it was so real… it hurt.
The book asks: Not sure if you struggle with change? Here are a few ways fear of change shows up:
- Lack of clarity
Um. Check, check, check, check and check. Okay, mayyyyyyybeeeeeeeee?
Haha. But not.
When I think of losing weight and what it means to me, I see it like a snarled ball of hair. Slight segue: I have this brush that spins around while drying my hair. I like it, but if I’m not careful, it can spin a chunk of hair into something that you might pull out of the lint tray in the dryer. Not long ago, I literally had to cut a wad of hair… outta my hair. Not fun times. Ahem.
Anyway, weight… it’s so complicated.
Did you know, for example, that there’s a downside to losing weight? Well, using what I’ve learned from the book, I’ve come up with this:
I won’t have to change. I can keep doing what I’m doing, like, say, eating a ton. People won’t expect more from me. It feels familiar. I won’t make anyone else uncomfortable, like say, my husband, who may want a treat. I won’t be more visible, which sounds totally backwards since I’m super obese-ly visible. Also, people won’t pay attention to me anymore than they do now, which isn’t much. And on and on AND ON the list goes. Dare I say it’s just the way I like it? Yeah, I do.
It’s really so much easier to just stay fat. Which means, high blood pressure and taking medication I don’t want and worrying about a stroke or heart attack, fitting in an airplane seat and walking long distances… phew!… or looking attractive, although (as I always say) we all are beautiful in our own ways. Those days I don’t feel like wearing a stitch of make-up? Who cares, I’m just a fat old lady anyway. Nobody will care!
You know what I mean, right?
So, yeah, my first concerted tapping will be about my fear of change.
I shall return after I have a few taps under my belt, so to speak. Wish me luck!