We’re in this together. <<< The thing that’s said which is supposed to make us feel more connected but in truth, shows how very alone we are.<<< Maybe we should say, “We’re blah blah in blah blah blah this blah blah together blah blah.”
The days melt together. Ah, the days are also alone, together.
The last load of laundry I did had no actual pants in it. Just sayin’. Sweats, t-shirts, and jams, as far as the eye could see.
My home office is a piece of furniture called a “secretary” though I don’t know why. I went on Google to find out. Did you know there’s something called secretarial English?
What is secretarial English?
Someone who works in an office, writing letters, making telephone calls and arranging meetings for a person or for an organization.
That sounds like a secretary – you know – the person. I don’t know where the “English” comes in but whatever floats their boat.
But I s’pose it could translate to this desk, where I’m writing. It looks like a bookcase until you pull out this shelf thingy. There’s nothing inside except what I put in there, which right now is my laptop, pens, coffee (blessed coffee!) and sundry other items.
Side note: I used to have an antique secretary that had drawers and slots and things for mail and such. Now that was a secretary. This? Just a small desktop, really. But I digress.
I certainly don’t want to complain about working from home because we are being asked to do something so simple for the good of others – and ourselves. It’s not like we have to hide in an attic without making any noise for two years. And I mean, c’mon, look at my surroundings, with beautiful angels, plants, books and cats and right next to a window. Seriously!
For my Work From Home (WFH) it is expected that I will act “as if” I am at work, which means being in front of the computer for 8 hours a day, except for breaks and lunch. And I’m incredibly thankful that I AM able to work instead of being laid off or terminated. To be honest, I feel a fierce loyalty to my company because of it. And I mean that sincerely. I’m soooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo thankful!
I will say, however, that being alone all the time is getting to me. Not the aloneness itself so much as the forced aloneness. Are you feeling that, too? Even most introverts usually connect with actual folks here and there throughout their day.
It’s kind of depressing whether you struggle with depression or not. I happen to, along with anxiety, and the two make a potent cocktail when you’re being held up at home because of a pandemic.
And I guess that’s where I really wanted to go with this post. In the age of a pandemic, what can we do to help ourselves? Well, I can think of a few things…
- Even if you have to sit at your desk for 8 hours like me — get up! I have been woefully remiss at doing this, to my detriment. Or, I should say, my butt’s detriment because it honestly feels like I’m getting bedsores. Not to put too fine (or graphic) a point on it. Even just standing up at your desk is a good idea… and I need to remember this while I’m IN the actual office, as well! Also, stretching is good. My neck and shoulders definitely appreciate it!
- Turn off the news 24/7. My husband has it on as a backdrop and he can handle it, as a reporter who needs to keep on top of things, he’d best be able to! But nobody says that *** I *** must listen. Oh, it’s a distant droning voice coming from downstairs but I don’t pay attention. I can’t anyway since I’m working and must concentrate on what I’m doing… but you know what I mean.
- Set your phone out of sight and sound – when you can. For me, I’ve learned something vitally important since I started this job because cell phones are a no-no at our desks. Some dipwad took a photo of confidential info and ruined it for everyone – isn’t that always the way? One bad apple and all that. But guess what I found out? I LOVE not having to worry about it! At least not during working hours. 🙂
- Drink plenty of water. This is my mantra … that I don’t follow … yes, even after my Year of Water. Ugh. But you know – and I know – it’s true.
- Use your Employee Assistance Program (EAP) if you have one for mental health and self-care. I’m lucky, my company has one with an online component and updates it daily with things like quick meditations.
- Combat loneliness with lots of phone calls, emails, letters and cards (gasp!) and visits to social media that don’t try your patience or interrupt your self-care. You know what I mean, here. If you get angry reading… maybe don’t do that right now. Or, perhaps a culling out of your friends list? Just an idea.
Now, since I’m no expert, I defer to those who are… and with that in mind, share these additional articles for you. You’re welcome!
All of these ideas are wonderful, of course! But there have been days I thought… yep, I could sink into a mighty depression right now. On those days particularly, I need to ramp up my self-care. For me that means, baths, tea, cats, books… and a good night’s sleep.
Well, I think I’ve rambled on quite enough for today. It’s lunchtime and I’m finishing up this post right now after starting it last night. Between this and scheduling some of my other posts, I seem to have found a bit of rhythm and it’s giving me the breathing room I need. That’s a very good thing, doncha think?