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Toxic Friends – Falling to pieces

20 Jul 202120 Jul 2021

July 20, 2021 Up for reblog is one of my more ... ugh-ish though excellent books. After reading through this post again, I only have one question: WHY DO WOMEN…

Self-Help Whispering

Grieving is Like a Lava Lamp – Field Notes and Gratitude

9 Jul 2021

Earlier this week, I received a completely-unexpected gift in the mail. Inside the package was a little wooden coin engraved with "Dad" on one side and a lantern on the…

Interviews

Teaser for Upcoming Interview – Patricia: A Change is Gonna Come!

21 Mar 202121 Mar 2021

“To improve is to change; to be perfect is to change often.” -Winston Churchill I've known Patricia for more than two decades, though we've never met in person. Such is the…

From My Bookshelf

Remember this one? – Emotional Blackmail

19 Mar 2021

Thank GOD and all that is holy, I no longer deal with people who use fear, obligation or guilt to manipulate me! But at one time… or two, or ten……

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Love, Life & Lucille – A life well lived with ribbons

11 Mar 202111 Mar 2021

My theory is that those at the very beginning and those near the end of life hold a special bond. It's almost as if they're so close to heaven, they…

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Remember this one?* – Forgive & Forget

6 Mar 2021

“If we wait to forgive people until they say they are sorry we make ourselves hostages to the very person who wronged us to begin with…” – Lewis B. Smedes Forgive…

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A heart, a dream and a photo

2 Mar 2021

“I believe in everything until it's disproved. So I believe in fairies, the myths, dragons. It all exists, even if it's in your mind. Who's to say that dreams and…

Self-Help Whispering

Spirit Animals – A conversation with OWL

6 Feb 20216 Feb 2021

Yeah, I'm on a solid "animal kick" right now, as I finish up the last of my animal communication classes on Tuesday. What a joy they have been! And yes,…

From My Bookshelf

Fiction as Self-Help – The Secret, Book & Scone Society

2 Feb 2021

As soon as the healing takes place, go out and heal somebody else. - Maya Angelou The Secret, Book & Scone Society by Ellery Adams is the first in a…

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Remember this one?* – Boundaries (Where You End and I Begin)

20 Jan 202124 Jan 2021

**Trigger Warning: Mention (without details) of childhood sexual abuse** There are many, many books on Boundaries. Most are very good. Just to give you an idea of how many there…

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Remember this one?* – Jung’s Struggle with Freud

14 Jan 2021

This probably goes without saying, but Jung’s Struggle With Freud by George B. Hogenson is about Carl Gustav Jung and Sigmund Freud. It was published in 1983 and was a real barn-burner. Since then, many…

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Remember this one?* – 10% Happier

19 Dec 202029 Dec 2020

"But it was in this moment, lying in bed late at night, that I first realized that the voice in my head—the running commentary that had dominated my field of…

Interviews

Teaser for Upcoming Interview – Roger: A Man for All Seasons

26 Jul 202011 Aug 2020

I met a new friend recently, through a dear friend I've known my whole life. Her name is Betsy. His is Roger. Let me explain: You know how on Facebook…

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Buffy the Vampire Slayer – The Old Lady & the Buffyverse

21 Jul 202011 Aug 2020

What is an old lady like me doing watching a series about teenaged vampire slayers? Good question! Sit in a comfy chair with a cup of herbal tea (or in…

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Fiction as Self-Help – In Five Years

22 May 202022 May 2020

In Five Years by Rebecca Serle is a book that will break your heart and put it back together again. Maybe. First things first: I only read it because we're…

Self-Help Whispering

Turtles – okay, yes, I talk to animals

28 Mar 2020

It will come as no shock to anyone who knows me that I LOVE animals. I remember, when I was young, being devastated when Bambi's mother died. I know everyone…

Self-Help Whispering

Bio Moment – “The Pacific”

17 Mar 202018 Mar 2020

I was visiting my daughter when this photo was taken. Gosh, has it been almost ten years ago? Yeah, actually! Wowzers! Am I feeling wistful or reminiscent? A little. I'm…

From My Bookshelf

Remember this one? -The Necklace

3 Mar 2020

It’s funny how synchronicity works. Yesterday, I wrote about transformation and the Bliss Mistress. Today, the book that jumps out at me is The Necklace by Cheryl Jarvis. The subtitle is: thirteen women…

Photography…

Picture of the Day -“Gift from Pam”

28 Jan 2020

Little corners Filled with Love Lift my spirits High Above Balancing on Wings of Hope Simple things That help me Cope Bless my friend Who holds me Dear Gratitude That…

Self-Help Whispering

From me, to you! ❤️💥🌼

2 Jan 20202 Jul 2020

Once upon a time, there was a woman who had a million trillion thoughts, hopes, stories and dreams floating around inside her head. They sometimes fell out of her eyes…

Photography

Picture of the Day -“Monday Vibes”

30 Dec 2019

Lunch with my friend, Pam. She spoiled me! I'm so grateful that Pam has been my "Keep writing!" motivator... she always says that one day, she'll be able to say…

Photography

Picture of the Day -“What a day!”

3 Oct 2019

I talked to MB today! I learned so much about myself and got lots of great advice!! I also received an incredible critique of my blog space from a follower…

Photography…

Picture of the Day – “From Here to There”

15 Sep 2019

Sometimes... the images I capture are deeply meaningful... powerful. Sometimes... stunning. And I take no credit for their beauty. The handiwork belongs to others. I just have the eyes to…

Self-Help Whispering

Remember this one? – Celebrate Age!

8 Aug 2019

Age is an opportunity no less, Than youth itself, though in another dress, And as the evening twilight fades away, The sky is filled with stars, invisible by day. Henry…

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Romany Fortunes – Dabbling

23 Jul 201923 Jul 2019

I dabble. <<<<< There, I said it. I am open to pretty-much anything except the Ouiji board. That bad-boy is just evil. But I digress. I found Romany Fortunes by…

Self-Help Whispering

Advice – Lesson from Laurie Part Deux

15 Jul 2019

Once upon a time (it was in 2013 on that blog I told you about the other day) I wrote a blog post about Laurie. I'm going to share it…

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Fiction as Self-Help – Turtles All The Way Down – Never has there been a more appropriate book for the Fiction as Self-Help Category!

20 Jun 201928 Mar 2021

I almost don't know where to begin. Turtles All The Way Down is by the same guy (John Green) who wrote The Fault in our Stars, which I didn't read…

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Finding Your Own North Star – Lost & Found

19 Jun 20199 Oct 2019

“Almost everyone who feels stymied, aimless, directionless is carrying an unresolved emotional wound. A lack of enthusiasm for life is always a sign that the deep self is hurt. Every person's…

Interviews

Teaser for Upcoming Interview – Lorrie: A monstrously good guy!

17 Jun 201923 Jun 2019

I first met Lorrie on October 30, 2015. I know this because we have proof! That day, for Halloween, we were involved in an anti-bullying campaign that was filmed by…

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You Don’t Look Your Age… and Other Fairy Tales – “This happened to me, learn from it!”

9 Apr 20199 Oct 2019

You Don't Look Your Age... and Other Fairy Tales by Sheila Nevins is a book after my own heart. In fact, it could have been written by me. It wasn't! But it…

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Garden of Friendship – This makes me happy!

8 Apr 20199 Oct 2019

I remember the first time I shared with an artist friend about my love for the work of Thomas Kinkade. She said, "He's dime-a-dozen! Commercial, simplistic and cliché. Just awful." "Oh,"…

Interviews

Teaser for Upcoming Interview – Karen: Close to You

7 Apr 201913 Apr 2019

Several weeks ago, a typical day at the office turned into an opportunity to meet someone from my tribe. I love when that kind of stuff happens, don't you? Now,…

Self-Help Whispering

Bio Moment – Purple People Pleaser

2 Apr 20199 Oct 2019

I'm going to keep this short and sweet since I've already created this post three times... and no, not just in my head. Ha. Ha. You're so funny! I decided…

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Easy like Sunday – How goes my “Year of Water”?

24 Mar 201912 Aug 2020

At the end of December, 2018, I decreed 2019 to be my Year of Water. I thought you might be wondering how it's going. Are you? Then, read on, McDuff!…

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Remember this one? – Memes as Self-Help/ She Chose Neither

28 Feb 201928 Feb 2019

About three years ago, just after the new year, I had something life-changing happen. This meme reminded me of it, so I thought I’d share. More about it in a…

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Healing Crystals and Gemstones – Healer or Amateur Geologist, you’ll like it!

25 Feb 20199 Oct 2019

My friend Bonney presented this book to me in the year I'd like to forget, 2014. I know this because she inscribed it: "To my gem of a friend"... and…

Self-Help Whispering

“Easy like” Monday – I get it now!

18 Feb 201912 Aug 2020

Today is Family Day in Canada. What that means to me is a day off. For my husband, not so much. He's a reporter and it's his "weekend" to work,…

Interviews

Teaser for Upcoming Interview – Kaden: All her bags are packed

3 Feb 20193 Feb 2019

You don't know Kaden (yet!) but you will, soon enough. She's my next Interview! How did I get so blessed to know such wise women and men? Well, in this…

From My Bookshelf

Toxic Friends – Falling to pieces

31 Jan 201920 Jul 2021

Men seem to kick friendship around like a football, but it doesn't seem to crack. Women treat it as glass and it goes to pieces. -Anne Morrow Lindbergh Toxic Friends…

Self-Help Whispering

BiO MoMeNt – DiScOmBoBuLaTeD

5 Jan 20196 Jan 2019

dis·com·bob·u·late /ˌdiskəmˈbäbyəlāt/ verb HUMOROUS•NORTH AMERICAN past tense: discombobulated; past participle: discombobulated disconcert or confuse (someone). "this attitude totally discombobulated Bruce" Origin mid 19th century: probably based on discompose or discomfit. Yesterday, I had a fantastic…

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Bio Moment – Things I’m Leaving Behind in 2018

26 Dec 201826 Dec 2018

In my continuing progression towards 2019, I offer this... Things I'm Leaving Behind in 2018 Cell phone worship. I use my cell phone as a... you know... phone, so it…

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Necessary Losses – There’s that word again: Expectations

21 Dec 20189 Oct 2019

“There comes a time when we aren't allowed not to know.” ― Judith Viorst, Necessary Losses: The Loves Illusions Dependencies and Impossible Expectations That All of us Have I'd say the time is…

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