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The Body Keeps the Score – Wearing Your Trauma

10 May 202112 Aug 2021

Our bodies are the texts that carry the memories and therefore remembering is no less than reincarnation. - Katie Cannon There is one very important thing to remember when submersing…

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Remember this one?*- Rich Dad, Poor Dad

8 Feb 2021

I find so many people struggling, often working harder, simply because they cling to old ideas. They want things to be the way they were; they resist change. I know…

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Bradshaw On: The Family – Best of the best!

12 Jan 2021

“We have no alternative. We must break the sacred rule and question these rules because unless we talk about them, there is no way out. We must evaluate them in…

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Remember this one? – Will I Ever Be Good Enough?

12 Feb 202012 Feb 2020

Do I notice the irony of the subtitle on this blog post? Why yes, yes I do. It's taken me a long time to write about Will I Ever Be Good…

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Fiction as self-help – The Shack – First, I hated it!

14 Sep 20199 Oct 2019

This will be a very different post for me... for many reasons. Let's begin with the obvious. The Shack by William P. Young was a juggernaut. It was originally self-published...…

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Remember this one? – Healing the Shame that Binds You

9 Sep 20194 Apr 2021

Healing the Shame that Binds You by John Bradshaw is another of the classics on my shelf. To be honest, John Bradshaw himself is a bit of a classic. If you get the…

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Girl, Stop Apologizing – Sorry, not sorry

16 Aug 20199 Oct 2019

“Women are taught that to be a good woman you need to be good for other people. If your kids are happy, then you're a good mom. If your husband…

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Soul Without Shame – Heavyweight contender

11 Jun 201912 Jun 2019

If you're looking for a quick-fix for your shame, Soul Without Shame by Byron Brown is NOT it. Not that it's a difficult read - it isn't - but that…

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Remember this one? – The Things You Would Have Said

22 May 2019

The Things You Would Have Said by Jackie Hooper is a stunning little book. Under two hundred pages, it doesn’t need more words to get the point across. The best things…

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DON’T GO THERE! (This flies in the face of everything I’ve read about healing trauma)

21 Apr 20195 Sep 2022

As many of you know, my mother is a Dr. Mom (Ph.D. Jungian therapist) and I respect her immensely. She has been my guru and my muse on many-a-post(s) here.…

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You Don’t Look Your Age… and Other Fairy Tales – “This happened to me, learn from it!”

9 Apr 20199 Oct 2019

You Don't Look Your Age... and Other Fairy Tales by Sheila Nevins is a book after my own heart. In fact, it could have been written by me. It wasn't! But it…

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Remember this one? – Start Late, Finish Rich

6 Apr 2019

I’m old. And as Chef Ramsey would say: “Let’s get that right, yeah?” I’m going to talk – for just a moment – about me and money. Or rather, me and my…

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Remember this one? – Journaling

28 Mar 2019

I’ve briefly talked about journaling in several posts so far. This will be focusing on it! I am a journal fanatic… although… it goes in fits and starts. When I’m…

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A Series – The Tapping Solution – Part 3

18 Mar 201922 Feb 2021

I could subtitle this: What NOT to do. But you probably already know that, since it's my mantra. Not really, but really. Oy! You've already figured out that this post,…

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A Series – The Tapping Solution – Part 2

12 Mar 20199 Oct 2019

This (probably/obviously) follows up A Series – The Tapping Solution – Part 1. The Tapping Solution by Nick Ortner is an amazing book and program. That said, I have a confession... and it pains…

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Living outside the box – I am an Official Empowered Empath

16 Feb 201917 Feb 2019

While this is my Year of Water it's also my year of stepping outside the box and doing stuff that scares me. I started with the seminar in December and…

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After the Affair – I hope you NEVER need this book!

6 Feb 20199 Oct 2019

“Dr. Spring possesses a remarkable combination of clarity, wisdom, spirit, and heart. This is an extremely helpful and healing book—a gift to us all.” —Harriet Lerner, Ph.D., author of The Dance of…

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Secrets You Keep From Yourself – Unless you’re like me, in which case…

1 Feb 20199 Oct 2019

Pay no attention to that man behind the curtain. - The Wizard of Oz The entire premise of this book is wasted on me. Not that it's a bad book...…

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After the Ecstasy, the Laundry -A Modern Spiritual Journey

26 Jan 20199 Oct 2019

After the Ecstasy, the Laundry by Jack Kornfield is a book I'd never heard of and passed on the shelves at my fave thrift store a dozen times. For one…

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Skinny Bitch – No-Nonsense or No-Way-José ?

24 Jan 20199 Oct 2019

"So coffee equals fat cells. P.S. It also makes your breath smell like ass." - Skinny Bitch Skinny Bitch by Rory Freedman and Kim Barnouin is the spawn of Satan. Just…

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How Did I Get Here? – A guilty pleasure

3 Dec 20189 Oct 2019

Sometimes I love being with people. Sometimes I flee from company and bear only silence. Sometimes I am sure people see my gifts, my wisdom and my light. Sometimes I think people…

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In The News – Victims No Longer: For men and those who love them

21 Nov 201824 Mar 2021

I almost always write about books I've read in the past... peppered with a few new ones as I come across and read them. Today is an exception. I bought…

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Emotional Blackmail – Return to Sender

19 Nov 20189 Oct 2019

Thank GOD and all that is holy, I no longer deal with people who use fear, obligation or guilt to manipulate me! But at one time... or two, or ten...…

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Woulda, Coulda, Shoulda – What have I missed?

17 Nov 20189 Oct 2019

The sentence usually begins, "If only..." - Freeman & DeWolf Ain’t it the truth? You know what makes me laugh? How, up until about a year ago, I thought that…

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Forgive & Forget – Forget? I think not!

16 Nov 20189 Oct 2019

“If we wait to forgive people until they say they are sorry we make ourselves hostages to the very person who wronged us to begin with...” - Lewis B. SmedesForgive &…

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How to Win Friends & Influence People – Avoiding a pile of buttered bagels

26 Oct 20189 Oct 2019

How to Win Friends & Influence People by Dale Carnegie was published in 1936. The title back then was, "How to Wineth Friends and Infulenceth People"... just kidding. All I'm…

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Elizabeth Taylor: A Passion for Life – Wisdom & Fluff

24 Oct 201823 Jan 2021

"I believe people are like rocks formed by the weather. We're formed by experience, by heartache, by grief, by mistakes, by guilt, by shame--all the things that psychiatrists would like…

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Remember this one? – From Panic to Power

9 Oct 2018

From Panic to Power by Lucinda Bassett begins with a nice ego-pump for those of us who struggle with panic and anxiety. It’s good news! We have above average intelligence, are…

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It Takes A Village – We cannot live for ourselves alone.

13 Sep 20189 Oct 2019

“We cannot live for ourselves alone. Our lives are connected by a thousand invisible threads, and along these sympathetic fibers, our actions run as causes and return to us as results." Herman…

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Loving What Is – 4 Questions

24 Jul 20189 Oct 2019

When I argue with reality, I lose - but only 100% of the time. - Byron Katie Byron Katie has the coolest name, I think. Cool name aside, she also…

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Women Who Love Too Much – Yeah, we still need it

23 Jul 20189 Oct 2019

Almost nothing is too much trouble, takes too much time, or is too expensive if it will "help" the man you are involved with. (Pg. 8 - Women Who Love…

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Down Came the Rain – A specific depression

14 Jul 20189 Oct 2019

I did not have postpartum depression. When I was having children (in the early 1980s) it (postpartum depression) wasn't "a thing". Except, of course, it WAS. We just didn't know…

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The Heart of Remarriage – Do what I say, not what I did!

23 Jun 20189 Oct 2019

To be clear, I never thought I'd be part of these statistics: In the U.S., 50% percent of first marriages, 67% of second, and 74% of third marriages end in divorce. Second marriages have difficulty for…

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Will I Ever Be Good Enough? – The mother-in-question is me

2 May 20189 Oct 2019

Do I notice the irony of the subtitle on this blog post? Why yes, yes I do. It's taken me a long time to write about Will I Ever Be Good…

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What do you think? – On Intuition

24 Mar 201824 Mar 2018

I have two books on intuition that are favorites: Practical Intuition by Laura Day and The Intuitive Way by Penney Peirce. For years... if you were like me... you believed…

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Healing the Shame that Binds You – Fit to be tied

8 Mar 20184 Apr 2021

Healing the Shame that Binds You by John Bradshaw is another of the classics on my shelf. To be honest, John Bradshaw himself is a bit of a classic. If…

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The Emotionally Abused Woman – And so my work began

13 Feb 20183 Jun 2021

The Emotionally Abused Woman by Beverly Engel, M.F.C.C. is among the classics in my bookshelf. When choosing books to write about, I passed it over a dozen times. It was almost…

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Motherhood The Second Oldest Profession – The Special Mother

6 Feb 20189 Oct 2019

"Never go to a doctor whose office plants have died." - Erma Bombeck I was going to write about comedy as self-help. Erma Bombeck was certainly funny... but I'd consider her a…

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Being Erica – Regrets & Time Travel

18 Jan 201825 Feb 2019

If you are not living, working and/or watching television in Canada, you may not have heard of Being Erica. More's the pity. When it was on television, I didn't watch…

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Fearless Living – Throw off that cloak!

17 Jan 20189 Oct 2019

Many years ago, I attended an in-service at the college where I worked. It was one of those "pick one of these and attend or don't bother coming back to…

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Journaling – Write on!

12 Jan 201812 Jan 2018

I've briefly talked about journaling in several posts so far. This will be focusing on it! I am a journal fanatic... although... it goes in fits and starts. When I'm…

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The Lifeboat – Why I write “Fiction as self-help” posts

5 Jan 20189 Oct 2019

Admirable traits are often exactly the same as negative ones, only expressed in a different way. - Charlotte Rogan (from The Lifeboat) It was one of the best Library days…

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