lessons learned – The Self-Help Whisperer®

Ta Da, Told You So!

8 Mar 2023

Today’s journal entry. Apropos because I have just gone through a medical thingie that could have been avoided had they simply listened to me when I told them what was…

Self-Help Whispering

Haiku: Nope!

28 Feb 2023

Let me see out there. I think I’ll just take a step. *lifts paw, shakes off* NOPE!

Photography…

A reminder from my friends

24 Feb 202324 Feb 2023

When I left my long-time job at the newspaper to manage the cat centre, this kitty was part of a menagerie of cats that decorated my desk! I keep it…

Self-Help Whispering

Whispered Word: Simplicity

29 Jan 202329 Jan 2023

Self-Help Whispering

Blurry: A Haiku

15 Jan 2023

I miss you most when I have something to tell you. It won’t be long now.

Photography

Picture of the Day -“Promise”

27 Dec 2022

Self-Help Whispering

Haiku: Stubborn Bird Poop

16 Aug 2022

Rainbow soap on glass A clean new car emerges Except for one spot!

Self-Help Whispering

Haiku: Changing Course

5 Jun 202231 Aug 2022

I grew straight at first But the sun came from that way So I adapted. ~ As spoken by the tree in the middle of the picture. 🌳💕

Self-Help Whispering

A Poem: Reflection

29 May 202231 Aug 2022

What I’d like to talk about today is a self-help topic for the ages. Ahem! Everyone you meet reflects yourself. Or, more simply put: EVERYONE IS A MIRROR What do…

From My Bookshelf

2 Minutes to Confidence- Gravitas

22 May 202222 May 2022

There’s a whole whack of books like 2 Minutes to Confidence by Corinne Sweet. I should know, I’ve read a bunch! I bet you have, too! One thing jumped out…

From My Bookshelf

What’s Stopping Me From Being Happy? – Newbie Must-Have!

15 May 2022

I first saw What’s Stopping Me From Being Happy? by Lisa Ellis on my Facebook timeline. Although I’ve taken down my professional FB page, I kept my personal one. Throughout…

From My Bookshelf

The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem – Er, Seven Actually

24 Apr 2022

Of all the judgments we pass in life, none is more important than the judgment we pass on ourselves. That judgment impacts every moment and every aspect of our existence.…

Self-Help Whispering

Runes – Another neat thing to toss into your self-help kit

14 Apr 202214 Apr 2022

I haven’t had Runes - actual Runes - until recently, though I did have rune(s) cards (thanks to Mom!). I liked the cards a lot but always wanted an actual…

From My Bookshelf

Being Joy – Unexpected Keeper!

20 Mar 2022

What happens when you’re looking for one book by an author, find another, and then find out it’s not even the same person at all? Being Joy is by Gloria…

From My Bookshelf…

Fiction As Self-Help -The Season of Classics

4 Mar 20229 Feb 2023

I know this is a self-help site. I know that I normally review self-help books. But... sometimes... I find myself led in different directions. My gut never fails me. This…

Self-Help Whispering

To Self-Help or Not To Self-Help?

22 Feb 202222 Feb 2022

This is, after all, a website about self-help. I hope you will allow me a bit of arrogant bluster and fluffery to elaborate on my ideas about what I think…

From My Bookshelf

Hallelujah Anyway – Blessed Mercy

21 Feb 202221 Feb 2022

“An open, merciful heart is a setup for pain, shame and being mocked.” – Anne Lamott (pg 8) Hallelejah Anyway by Anne Lamott is the perfect book to follow up yesterday’s post. Mercy,…

Photography

Picture of the Day “A Study in Mindfulness”

23 Jan 2022

Bette needs no one to tell her how to be mindful. She simply is.

Photography

Picture of the Day & Haiku – “Not Forgotten”

24 Jul 2021

Children, holding hands Once filled these steps with laughter Gone, not forgotten.

From My Bookshelf

Remember this one?* – The Yeast Connection

28 May 2021

Actually, The Yeast Connection by William G. Crook, MD may be one of the most important books you’ll read, if you have a whack of weird symptoms that can’t be diagnosed,…

From My Bookshelf

Remember this one?* – Who Moved My Cheese?

26 May 2021

Every day, I would drive home from work thinking about what I would write here. Sometimes, I’d get things sorted before I walked in the door. Sometimes, it would come…

From My Bookshelf

Remember this one?* – The Black Book of Hollywood Beauty Secrets

24 May 202124 May 2021

Now, you may ask yourself what in the WORLD was I thinking when I picked up this book? Fair question. Here’s the answer: This might be fun! See, every once in…

From My Bookshelf

Remember this one?* – How to Argue and Win Every Time

3 May 2021

And *this guy* knows a thing or two! “He has never lost a criminal case either as a prosecutor or a defense attorney. He has not lost a civil case…

From My Bookshelf

Remember this one?*- Rich Dad, Poor Dad

8 Feb 2021

I find so many people struggling, often working harder, simply because they cling to old ideas. They want things to be the way they were; they resist change. I know…

From My Bookshelf

Remember this one?* – 10% Happier

19 Dec 202029 Dec 2020

"But it was in this moment, lying in bed late at night, that I first realized that the voice in my head—the running commentary that had dominated my field of…

From My Bookshelf

Remember this one?* – Ordinarily Well

1 Dec 2020

Ordinarily Well by Peter D. Kramer is about antidepressants. More to the point, it is about if they work. Kramer is not merely a bystander… he is a psychiatrist and scholar.…

From My Bookshelf

Remember this one?* – The Happiness Project

25 Nov 2020

It was a "Heather's Pick". Who the heck IS this Heather at my local bookseller? I picture her small and stooped over, with sexy librarian glasses and orthopedic shoes. She…

From My Bookshelf

Remember this one?* – The Gentle Art of Verbal Self-Defense

14 Nov 202014 Nov 2020

Dont get me wrong. The Gentle Art of Verbal Self-Defense by Suzette Haden Elgin is excellent. It’s just that… well… come with me and we’ll get where I’m going. I’ve read (what…

Photography

Picture of the Day -“A girl can dream…”

6 Nov 2020

I would love a home just like this, picket fence and all!

From My Bookshelf

Remember this one?* – Resilience

5 Nov 2020

In her final words, she said that “in the simple act of living with hope, and in the daily effort to have a positive impact in the world, the days…

From My Bookshelf

Remember this one?* – Manage Your Online Reputation

24 Oct 2020

Look up Self-Counsel Press and favorite-it. Then order Manage Your Online Reputation by Tony Wilson. Self-Counsel Press is a division of International Self-Counsel Press Ltd. (same link as above) and has offices in…

Photography

Picture of the Day -“Cemetery Road”

11 Oct 2020

From My Bookshelf

Remember this one?* – As a Man Thinketh

11 Oct 20209 Feb 2023

"A man’s mind may be likened to a garden, which may be intelligently cultivated or allowed to run wild; but whether cultivated or neglected, it must, and will, bring forth.…

From My Bookshelf

Remember this one?* – The Hero Within

8 Oct 20208 Oct 2020

No matter how much people want to feel loved, appreciated, and a part of things, they will be lonely until they make a commitment to themselves, a commitment that is…

From My Bookshelf

Remember this one?* – This is Me

3 Oct 2020

"Honeybees are meaningful to me because technically they’re not supposed to be able to fly. We know they do, but in the 1930s, French scientists ‘proved’ they couldn’t. Their reasoning…

Photography…

Picture(s) of the Day – “A Hidden Gem” (And an update!)

29 Sep 20209 Feb 2023

For those of you following along with my recent life events, you will notice that I am here in the middle of a work day sharing photos I snapped only…

From My Bookshelf

Remember this one?* – Emotional Intelligence

17 Sep 2020

My IQ is modest. My common-sense is pretty-much nil. But my emotional intelligence? Well, let’s just say it works better than the other two combined. Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Goleman is the kind…

From My Bookshelf

Remember this one? – I’m OK – You’re OK

12 Sep 2020

“Three things make people want to change. One is that they hurt sufficiently. They have beat their heads against the same wall so long that they decide they have had…

From My Bookshelf

Remember this one?* – The Secret of the Shadow

4 Sep 2020

“Embracing our dark side gives us a new found freedom to be with the darkness in others. For when I can love all of me, I will love all of…

From My Bookshelf

Remember this one?* – Begin with Yes

13 Aug 202013 Aug 2020

Begin with Yes by Paul S. Boynton is easy reading and the message itself is simple: Begin with Yes. Then how come it took me 64 pages to say, “Oh! I get…

From My Bookshelf

Diana, Herself – Women, you NEED to read this book!

7 Aug 20209 Feb 2023

I have just finished the most spectacular book (!!!!) called Diana, Herself by Martha Beck. She is a prolific self-help author. And a little head's up: I've written about her…

If you have a medical or mental health emergency, call your doctor or 911.

Nothing contained in this blog (The Self-Help Whisperer®) is intended to establish or replace a physician-patient relationship or services.

If you are IN CRISIS and NEED TO TALK but don’t know who to call…

In USA: Mental Health America In Crisis? Call 1-800-273-TALK

Or elsewhere in the world – By Country, as compiled by Wikipedia

Suicide hotline numbers

Someone dies from suicide every 40 seconds

United States 1 800 273 8255

Canada 1 800 456 4566