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The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem – Er, Seven Actually

24 Apr 2022

Of all the judgments we pass in life, none is more important than the judgment we pass on ourselves. That judgment impacts every moment and every aspect of our existence.…

From My Bookshelf

Being Joy – Unexpected Keeper!

20 Mar 2022

What happens when you’re looking for one book by an author, find another, and then find out it’s not even the same person at all? Being Joy is by Gloria…

Self-Help Whispering

Dad – And then, there were the feathers…

24 Feb 202224 Feb 2022

I’ve struggled with how to write today’s post. It’s been one year today since Dad travelled to that great unknown… And, being honest, this grieving process has been very different…

From My Bookshelf…

Bio-Moment – Not Just Me. Right?

20 Feb 2022

I’m not okay. Are you okay? I mean, yeah, sure, masked faces are a familiar sight, as is hand sanitizer, arrows on the floor, and statistics about how many have…

Self-Help Whispering

A Note For YOU! At Your Fingertips!

24 Jan 2022

In late December, I was involved in a kitchen catastrophe! I was splitting peas after a long day in the fields and didn’t notice that I’d picked up a machete…

Photography

Picture of the Day “A Study in Mindfulness”

23 Jan 2022

Bette needs no one to tell her how to be mindful. She simply is.

From My Bookshelf

The Year of No nonsense – Perfect for this moment!

6 Oct 2021

The title to chapter 4 of The Year of No Nonsense is the crux of why I love this book. The chapter is called, "Breaking Up with the Lies We…

From My Bookshelf

A New Earth – It will change your state of consciousness or it will be meaningless.

23 Apr 2021

"Complaining is one of the ego's favorite strategies for strengthening itself. Every complaint is a little story the mind makes up that you completely believe in. Whether you complain aloud…

From My Bookshelf

Remember this one?* – Reading by the Colors

30 Mar 2021

This post could write itself. Wait, no, not what I meant. I meant, I could write this with my eyes closed. Wait, also not what I meant, except, actually, I could, because I learned…

From My Bookshelf

Love, Life & Lucille – A life well lived with ribbons

11 Mar 202111 Mar 2021

My theory is that those at the very beginning and those near the end of life hold a special bond. It's almost as if they're so close to heaven, they…

From My Bookshelf

Remember this one?* – The Hero Within

8 Oct 20208 Oct 2020

No matter how much people want to feel loved, appreciated, and a part of things, they will be lonely until they make a commitment to themselves, a commitment that is…

Photography…

Bio Moment – “Another path, another journey”

2 Oct 2020

Did I tell you that I prayed, meditated and even pulled cards in my quest to find the answer to the question: Is it the right time to go back…

Self-Help Whispering

3 Year Anniversary – All that glitters!

21 Sep 202021 Sep 2020

On October 20, 2017, I started the last blog in a series of deleted blogs I'd created over the previous five years, or so. That would be... uh... this blog.…

From My Bookshelf

Remember this one?* – Emotional Intelligence

17 Sep 2020

My IQ is modest. My common-sense is pretty-much nil. But my emotional intelligence? Well, let’s just say it works better than the other two combined. Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Goleman is the kind…

From My Bookshelf

Remember this one? – “Her name, Titanic”

29 Mar 202029 Mar 2020

March 29, 2020: Sometimes I feel led to share something and don't know why. This post jumped out at me today so I'm sharing it. It's one of my favorites!…

From My Bookshelf

Remember this one? – “Fibromyalgia & Chronic Myofascial Pain”

21 Mar 2020

I remember the first time I mentioned to my doctor that I believe I have Fibromyalgia. She rolled her eyes. I stopped as I wrote that last part, about her…

From My Bookshelf

Remember this one? – Radical Feminist Therapy

18 Mar 2020

I found Radical Feminist Therapy by Bonnie Burstow in a thrift shop. I suspect it was a textbook for Women’s Studies in a college or University. There were a couple of things…

Self-Help Whispering

Bio Moment – Freaking Sparkles :-)

13 Dec 201917 Dec 2019

You will not BELIEVE what happened to me last night! After my hideously (though humorous) day... THIS happened... My husband wrote me an email - cuz he couldn't call or…

Self-Help Whispering

Remember this one? – Motherhood The Second Oldest Profession

14 Jun 2019

“Never go to a doctor whose office plants have died.” – Erma Bombeck I was going to write about comedy as self-help. Erma Bombeck was certainly funny… but I’d consider her a…

Self-Help Whispering

Ghost Whisperer – What festers below the surface?

18 May 201919 May 2019

It will not surprise you to know that during 2014: My Year of Pain I gravitated toward mostly-spiritual television. I've already talked about Being Erica. Today, I will be talking about…

From My Bookshelf

Five Wishes – And, one important question!

13 May 20199 Oct 2019

My life is a complete success because I live in a state of completion with all my friends and family. I say all the important things I need to say,…

From My Bookshelf

New Beginnings – It’s time.

23 Apr 20199 Oct 2019

When one is a stranger to oneself then one is estranged from others too. - Ann Morrow Lindbergh New Beginnings by Betty Jane Wylie has been sitting quietly on my…

Self-Help Whispering

Easy like Sunday – DON’T GO THERE! (This flies in the face of everything I’ve read about healing trauma.)

21 Apr 201912 Aug 2020

As many of you know, my mother is a Dr. Mom (Ph.D. Jungian therapist) and I respect her immensely. She has been my guru and my muse on many-a-post(s) here.…

Self-Help Whispering

Remember this one? – Fearless Living

18 Apr 201918 Apr 2019

Many years ago, I attended an in-service at the college where I worked. It was one of those “pick one of these and attend or don’t bother coming back to…

Self-Help Whispering

Bio Moment – “You are a pig”

17 Apr 201917 Apr 2019

A few things you need to know before we get into today's post: I haven't forgotten about the Tapping Solution. In fact, I will be writing about it soon. I…

From My Bookshelf

You Don’t Look Your Age… and Other Fairy Tales – “This happened to me, learn from it!”

9 Apr 20199 Oct 2019

You Don't Look Your Age... and Other Fairy Tales by Sheila Nevins is a book after my own heart. In fact, it could have been written by me. It wasn't! But it…

Self-Help Whispering

Remember this one? – Start Late, Finish Rich

6 Apr 2019

I’m old. And as Chef Ramsey would say: “Let’s get that right, yeah?” I’m going to talk – for just a moment – about me and money. Or rather, me and my…

From My Bookshelf

Perimenopause and Menopause – Ladies Night

3 Apr 201924 Feb 2021

Yes, today's books are about women ... but men, please don't go! (I say this because if there's one thing I know, it's that menopause vies with tampons to top…

From My Bookshelf

The One Plan – Not for the fainthearted!

1 Apr 20199 Oct 2019

The One Plan by Yogi Cameron Alborzian will surprise you in a few ways. Ever heard of a yogic therapist? Me, neither! Cameron Alborzian IS one! Ever heard of the…

Self-Help Whispering

Easy like Sunday – Look Ma, no static!

17 Mar 201912 Aug 2020

One of my more UNendearing traits is procrastination. I can NOT do something longer than pretty-much anyone I know. If there were a contest and the winner won a trip…

From My Bookshelf

A Series – The Tapping Solution – Part 2

12 Mar 20199 Oct 2019

This (probably/obviously) follows up A Series – The Tapping Solution – Part 1. The Tapping Solution by Nick Ortner is an amazing book and program. That said, I have a confession... and it pains…

Self-Help Whispering

In The News – Violent Men: Can we (at least) discuss this?

11 Mar 201912 Mar 2019

Trigger Warning: Violence (physical, emotional and verbal abuse discussed) Disclaimer: Not everyone is a victim or perpetrator. However, there are still too many wounded women and children, in particular. 1 in…

Self-Help Whispering

Easy like Sunday – Doing The Splurge!

3 Mar 201912 Aug 2020

I'm super-excited and super-scared. Why? Well, look up there ^^^^^ at my address line. Notice something? Or rather, the absence of something? The word "wordpress" is gone from my address.…

Self-Help Whispering

Easy like Sunday – The Wall of Sh!t

24 Feb 201912 Aug 2020

I created the featured photo ten years ago... and I know why I did it (I was asked by my therapist to draw it) but I don't know why (why…

From My Bookshelf

After the Ecstasy, the Laundry -A Modern Spiritual Journey

26 Jan 20199 Oct 2019

After the Ecstasy, the Laundry by Jack Kornfield is a book I'd never heard of and passed on the shelves at my fave thrift store a dozen times. For one…

From My Bookshelf

The December Project – Lightness & Grace

12 Jan 20199 Oct 2019

My sister-in-law Shirley is infused with light. I felt it emanating from her the first time we met (about 19 years ago!) and over the years, it has only brightened.…

Self-Help Whispering

Bio Moment – An actual moment.

13 Oct 201814 Oct 2018

I wake up. Thank God it's not a workday, I think. Actually, I knew that already, since my alarm didn't go off at 7:15am. I never wake up at 7:15am on my…

Self-Help Whispering

Bio Moment – I miss her

5 Sep 2018

Today's featured photo is the one I'd hoped to use on my book jacket. You know, when I became a famous author, like Jessica Fletcher. (Seriously, look at the link,…

Self-Help Whispering

Bio Moment – The Bucket List

9 Aug 2018

In the past two days, I've had two conversations that kinda blew my mind. It began with one colleague, who just had her 38th birthday. This weekend, she's going to…

From My Bookshelf

Emotional Intelligence – Redefining “Smart”

8 Aug 20189 Oct 2019

My IQ is modest. My common-sense is pretty-much nil. But my emotional intelligence? Well, let's just say it works better than the other two combined. Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Goleman…

From My Bookshelf

I’M OK – YOU’RE OK – But he’s weird

6 Aug 20189 Oct 2019

“Three things make people want to change. One is that they hurt sufficiently. They have beat their heads against the same wall so long that they decide they have had…

From My Bookshelf

The Secret of the Shadow -Come out of hiding

4 Aug 20189 Oct 2019

“Embracing our dark side gives us a new found freedom to be with the darkness in others. For when I can love all of me, I will love all of…

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