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I first saw What’s Stopping Me From Being Happy? by Lisa Ellis on my Facebook timeline. Although I’ve taken down my professional FB page, I kept my personal one. Throughout…

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Bio Moment – Mind blown

4 Apr 2022

The featured photo is of me, though I don’t know what part of me … … or where it was taken. I found it when I went to my phone’s…

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Easy Like … Huh?

27 Feb 202227 Feb 2022

Today is an “Easy Like Sunday” kind of day. What does that mean? First, love the song by… uh… who was that? The Commodores? Don’t feel like looking it up…

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Dad – And then, there were the feathers…

24 Feb 202224 Feb 2022

I’ve struggled with how to write today’s post. It’s been one year today since Dad travelled to that great unknown… And, being honest, this grieving process has been very different…

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Bio-Moment – Not Just Me. Right?

20 Feb 2022

I’m not okay. Are you okay? I mean, yeah, sure, masked faces are a familiar sight, as is hand sanitizer, arrows on the floor, and statistics about how many have…

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Easy like Sunday – Oh, Pooh!

16 Jan 2022

What new thing can be said about a book known and loved by everyone I’ve ever met? Maybe this: ‘A gorgeous new collectible edition of the beloved classic, Winnie-the-Pooh, crafted as a…

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Greenlights – Not a Fan?

9 Oct 2021

I never liked the young Matthew McConaughey's acting, appearance, or personality. You know how some people just rub you the wrong way? (And here, I would be remiss not to…

Photography

Picture of the Day & Haiku – “Not Forgotten”

24 Jul 2021

Children, holding hands Once filled these steps with laughter Gone, not forgotten.

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Until We Meet Again, Dad

26 Feb 202128 Mar 2021

Those of you who have been here since the beginning know that my dad fell a little over three years ago. Until that time, I thought he'd live forever. At…

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Bonus Bio Moment – “But… it’s you!”

29 Dec 2020

Today, I updated my Facebook profile photo to the one shown as my featured photo for this post. Invariably after a photo like this - sans makeup, and in this…

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It is Well with My Soul – Bring back to life, in my memory

17 Dec 2020

2020 has been a mind-twisting, friendship-testing, body-morphing, politically-toxic year! No matter where you fall on the spectrum-of-life... you feel like a different person coming out of this year than you…

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Photo Journal – Niagara Falls Festival of Lights

13 Dec 2020

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Bio Moment – The Smith’s

30 Nov 202017 Mar 2021

When my first husband and I married, back in 1980, we were both very lucky to have many of our grandparents except my dad's father, who'd passed away the previous…

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And The Answer Is… – The Musk Ox

23 Nov 202023 Nov 2020

A good education and a kind heart will serve you well throughout your entire life. - Alex Trebek Memoirs are often great sources of self-help because they give us a…

Photography

Picture of the Day – The Sheryl Files

8 Nov 2020

My peeps, it had to happen. I'm depressed. And oh-so anxious. Shit. I wanted to go out and get some shots on this fantastic, unusually warm, November Sunday... But... Instead...…

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Bio Moment – A long story & A bonus musing at the end

29 Oct 20207 Dec 2020

Facebook is so kind to bring up memories from past years. Sometimes funny, sometimes poignant, always a peek into what was going on in my head that same day last…

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Bio Moment – Dog people

23 Oct 202023 Oct 2020

I am a animal person. Some, who have read here and/or know me, might have thought I'd say "cat person" given our furry feline family (say that fast three times!).…

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Remember this one?* – Emotional Intelligence

17 Sep 2020

My IQ is modest. My common-sense is pretty-much nil. But my emotional intelligence? Well, let’s just say it works better than the other two combined. Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Goleman is the kind…

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Blast from the Past – Here lies the vestiges of my former blogs (RIP)

24 Jun 20208 Aug 2021

Do you remember me telling you - oh, way back at the beginning - that this blog was not my first rodeo? In fact, I might have said it was…

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Picture of the Day – “Shipwrecked”

7 Jun 2020

There is a story to this scene but today is not the day to tell it. Please, just enjoy it, as I do!

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Easy like Sunday – Recalibrate

24 May 202025 May 2020

Once upon a time, I wanted to live in a yellow house with a potter's wheel in the small artist's studio out back, a sparkling blue swimming pool, art in…

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Remember this one? – Living Your Truth

5 May 20205 May 2020

Living Your Truth by Dr. Keith Ablow sounds pretty straightforward. Live the truth. Easy-peasy. Not so fast. I have always considered myself an honest person. My mother will tell you I…

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Remember this one? – Make the Connection

28 Apr 202028 Apr 2020

Before we begin, allow me to answer your questions (that you haven’t yet asked but are wondering about): Yes, I was an Oprah fan and waited for this book in…

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Turtles – okay, yes, I talk to animals

28 Mar 2020

It will come as no shock to anyone who knows me that I LOVE animals. I remember, when I was young, being devastated when Bambi's mother died. I know everyone…

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Haiku – “Grief”

23 Mar 2020

Condensation, or weeping woman, misty-eyed Thought I saw you there.

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Bio Moment – “The Pacific”

17 Mar 202018 Mar 2020

I was visiting my daughter when this photo was taken. Gosh, has it been almost ten years ago? Yeah, actually! Wowzers! Am I feeling wistful or reminiscent? A little. I'm…

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Remember this one? – How to Live Between Office Visits

8 Feb 20208 Feb 2020

Faith is the health's requisite - John Updike, from "Ode to Healing" It was an act of faith that led me to buy this book... because... as a person with…

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Bio Moment – Sleep, perchance to dream

30 Jan 202031 Jan 2020

I am so thankful... And tired. Really, really tired. Reminds me of my dreams lately: non-existent. In the months leading up to my new job, I dreamed of being lost,…

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From me, to you! ❤️💥🌼

2 Jan 20202 Jul 2020

Once upon a time, there was a woman who had a million trillion thoughts, hopes, stories and dreams floating around inside her head. They sometimes fell out of her eyes…

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Remember this one? – Dear Me

28 Dec 201928 Dec 2019

“The afternoon knows what the morning never suspected.” ― Robert Frost Dear Me is *not* one of the classics among my collection … but maybe it should be. It is a collection of letters written…

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Remember this one? – Tuesdays with Morrie

17 Dec 201917 Dec 2019

You may have noticed that I kinda jump all over the self-help map. So far, I’ve been able to keep from duplicating books. Go, me! And also, so far, I’ve avoided even…

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Lessons in Loss and Living – What would you do if you didn’t know better?

7 Dec 20197 Dec 2019

Oh yes, our old friend grief... again. *sigh* I typed "grief" into the search field of my blog and got this list. You can look if you want. I'll wait.…

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Memory and Abuse – With a caveat

11 Nov 201928 Apr 2022

Charles L. Whitfield, MD is one of my favorite self-help authors. I've mentioned him before regarding his excellent book Healing the Child Within. However, today we are talking about Memory and Abuse…

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Remember this one? – On Intuition

9 Oct 20196 Oct 2019

I have two books on intuition that are favorites: Practical Intuition by Laura Day and The Intuitive Way by Penney Peirce. For years… if you were like me… you believed in intuition, gut…

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Remember this one? – Healing the Shame that Binds You

9 Sep 20194 Apr 2021

Healing the Shame that Binds You by John Bradshaw is another of the classics on my shelf. To be honest, John Bradshaw himself is a bit of a classic. If you get the…

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Toxic Parents – Emotional aftereffects

2 Sep 201916 Mar 2022

Trigger warning: Discussion of abuse. No details, no photos. Toxic Parents by Dr. Susan Forward has been patiently sitting on my shelf waiting for me to pick it up and write…

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Remember this one? – The Emotionally Abused Woman

19 Jul 20193 Jun 2021

Note: "Remember this one?" = Posts that you may have missed the first time around. This post was originally posted by me on February 13, 2018 The Emotionally Abused Woman by…

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Bio Moment – To all the posts I lost before

13 Jul 201928 Jul 2019

I've mentioned that this blog is not my first rodeo... er, blog. Before this blog space, I probably wrote hundreds of posts over the course of three years (or so)…

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Fiction as Self-Help – Turtles All The Way Down – Never has there been a more appropriate book for the Fiction as Self-Help Category!

20 Jun 201915 Sep 2021

I almost don't know where to begin. Turtles All The Way Down is by the same guy (John Green) who wrote The Fault in our Stars, which I didn't read…

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Easy like Sunday – Father’s Day

16 Jun 201916 Jun 2019

Once upon a time, I fell in love with my father. Each year, the love grew, especially after I found out he chose me. I wasn't a surprise or mistake,…

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Remember this one? – Motherhood The Second Oldest Profession

14 Jun 2019

“Never go to a doctor whose office plants have died.” – Erma Bombeck I was going to write about comedy as self-help. Erma Bombeck was certainly funny… but I’d consider her a…

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Soul Without Shame – Heavyweight contender

11 Jun 201912 Jun 2019

If you're looking for a quick-fix for your shame, Soul Without Shame by Byron Brown is NOT it. Not that it's a difficult read - it isn't - but that…

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