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Greenlights – Not a Fan?

9 Oct 2021

I never liked the young Matthew McConaughey's acting, appearance, or personality. You know how some people just rub you the wrong way? (And here, I would be remiss not to…

Photography

Picture of the Day & Haiku – “Not Forgotten”

24 Jul 2021

Children, holding hands Once filled these steps with laughter Gone, not forgotten.

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Until We Meet Again, Dad

26 Feb 202128 Mar 2021

Those of you who have been here since the beginning know that my dad fell a little over three years ago. Until that time, I thought he'd live forever. At…

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Bonus Bio Moment – “But… it’s you!”

29 Dec 2020

Today, I updated my Facebook profile photo to the one shown as my featured photo for this post. Invariably after a photo like this - sans makeup, and in this…

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It is Well with My Soul – Bring back to life, in my memory

17 Dec 2020

2020 has been a mind-twisting, friendship-testing, body-morphing, politically-toxic year! No matter where you fall on the spectrum-of-life... you feel like a different person coming out of this year than you…

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Photo Journal – Niagara Falls Festival of Lights

13 Dec 2020

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Bio Moment – The Smith’s

30 Nov 202017 Mar 2021

When my first husband and I married, back in 1980, we were both very lucky to have many of our grandparents except my dad's father, who'd passed away the previous…

From My Bookshelf

And The Answer Is… – The Musk Ox

23 Nov 202023 Nov 2020

A good education and a kind heart will serve you well throughout your entire life. - Alex Trebek Memoirs are often great sources of self-help because they give us a…

Photography

Picture of the Day – The Sheryl Files

8 Nov 2020

My peeps, it had to happen. I'm depressed. And oh-so anxious. Shit. I wanted to go out and get some shots on this fantastic, unusually warm, November Sunday... But... Instead...…

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Bio Moment – A long story & A bonus musing at the end

29 Oct 20207 Dec 2020

Facebook is so kind to bring up memories from past years. Sometimes funny, sometimes poignant, always a peek into what was going on in my head that same day last…

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Bio Moment – Dog people

23 Oct 202023 Oct 2020

I am a animal person. Some, who have read here and/or know me, might have thought I'd say "cat person" given our furry feline family (say that fast three times!).…

From My Bookshelf

Remember this one?* – Emotional Intelligence

17 Sep 2020

My IQ is modest. My common-sense is pretty-much nil. But my emotional intelligence? Well, let’s just say it works better than the other two combined. Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Goleman is the kind…

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Blast from the Past – Here lies the vestiges of my former blogs (RIP)

24 Jun 20208 Aug 2021

Do you remember me telling you - oh, way back at the beginning - that this blog was not my first rodeo? In fact, I might have said it was…

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Picture of the Day – “Shipwrecked”

7 Jun 2020

There is a story to this scene but today is not the day to tell it. Please, just enjoy it, as I do!

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Easy like Sunday – Recalibrate

24 May 202025 May 2020

Once upon a time, I wanted to live in a yellow house with a potter's wheel in the small artist's studio out back, a sparkling blue swimming pool, art in…

From My Bookshelf

Remember this one? – Living Your Truth

5 May 20205 May 2020

Living Your Truth by Dr. Keith Ablow sounds pretty straightforward. Live the truth. Easy-peasy. Not so fast. I have always considered myself an honest person. My mother will tell you I…

From My Bookshelf

Remember this one? – Make the Connection

28 Apr 202028 Apr 2020

Before we begin, allow me to answer your questions (that you haven’t yet asked but are wondering about): Yes, I was an Oprah fan and waited for this book in…

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Turtles – okay, yes, I talk to animals

28 Mar 2020

It will come as no shock to anyone who knows me that I LOVE animals. I remember, when I was young, being devastated when Bambi's mother died. I know everyone…

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Haiku – “Grief”

23 Mar 2020

Condensation, or weeping woman, misty-eyed Thought I saw you there.

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Bio Moment – “The Pacific”

17 Mar 202018 Mar 2020

I was visiting my daughter when this photo was taken. Gosh, has it been almost ten years ago? Yeah, actually! Wowzers! Am I feeling wistful or reminiscent? A little. I'm…

From My Bookshelf

Remember this one? – How to Live Between Office Visits

8 Feb 20208 Feb 2020

Faith is the health's requisite - John Updike, from "Ode to Healing" It was an act of faith that led me to buy this book... because... as a person with…

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Bio Moment – Sleep, perchance to dream

30 Jan 202031 Jan 2020

I am so thankful... And tired. Really, really tired. Reminds me of my dreams lately: non-existent. In the months leading up to my new job, I dreamed of being lost,…

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From me, to you! ❤️💥🌼

2 Jan 20202 Jul 2020

Once upon a time, there was a woman who had a million trillion thoughts, hopes, stories and dreams floating around inside her head. They sometimes fell out of her eyes…

From My Bookshelf

Remember this one? – Dear Me

28 Dec 201928 Dec 2019

“The afternoon knows what the morning never suspected.” ― Robert Frost Dear Me is *not* one of the classics among my collection … but maybe it should be. It is a collection of letters written…

From My Bookshelf

Remember this one? – Tuesdays with Morrie

17 Dec 201917 Dec 2019

You may have noticed that I kinda jump all over the self-help map. So far, I’ve been able to keep from duplicating books. Go, me! And also, so far, I’ve avoided even…

From My Bookshelf

Lessons in Loss and Living – What would you do if you didn’t know better?

7 Dec 20197 Dec 2019

Oh yes, our old friend grief... again. *sigh* I typed "grief" into the search field of my blog and got this list. You can look if you want. I'll wait.…

From My Bookshelf

Memory and Abuse – With a caveat

11 Nov 201911 Nov 2019

Charles L. Whitfield, MD is one of my favorite self-help authors. I've mentioned him before regarding his excellent book Healing the Child Within. However, today we are talking about Memory and Abuse…

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Remember this one? – On Intuition

9 Oct 20196 Oct 2019

I have two books on intuition that are favorites: Practical Intuition by Laura Day and The Intuitive Way by Penney Peirce. For years… if you were like me… you believed in intuition, gut…

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Remember this one? – Healing the Shame that Binds You

9 Sep 20194 Apr 2021

Healing the Shame that Binds You by John Bradshaw is another of the classics on my shelf. To be honest, John Bradshaw himself is a bit of a classic. If you get the…

From My Bookshelf

Toxic Parents – Emotional aftereffects

2 Sep 20199 Oct 2019

Trigger warning: Discussion of abuse. No details, no photos. Toxic Parents by Dr. Susan Forward has been patiently sitting on my shelf waiting for me to pick it up and write…

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Remember this one? – The Emotionally Abused Woman

19 Jul 20193 Jun 2021

Note: "Remember this one?" = Posts that you may have missed the first time around. This post was originally posted by me on February 13, 2018 The Emotionally Abused Woman by…

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Bio Moment – To all the posts I lost before

13 Jul 201928 Jul 2019

I've mentioned that this blog is not my first rodeo... er, blog. Before this blog space, I probably wrote hundreds of posts over the course of three years (or so)…

From My Bookshelf

Fiction as Self-Help – Turtles All The Way Down – Never has there been a more appropriate book for the Fiction as Self-Help Category!

20 Jun 201915 Sep 2021

I almost don't know where to begin. Turtles All The Way Down is by the same guy (John Green) who wrote The Fault in our Stars, which I didn't read…

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Easy like Sunday – Father’s Day

16 Jun 201916 Jun 2019

Once upon a time, I fell in love with my father. Each year, the love grew, especially after I found out he chose me. I wasn't a surprise or mistake,…

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Remember this one? – Motherhood The Second Oldest Profession

14 Jun 2019

“Never go to a doctor whose office plants have died.” – Erma Bombeck I was going to write about comedy as self-help. Erma Bombeck was certainly funny… but I’d consider her a…

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Soul Without Shame – Heavyweight contender

11 Jun 201912 Jun 2019

If you're looking for a quick-fix for your shame, Soul Without Shame by Byron Brown is NOT it. Not that it's a difficult read - it isn't - but that…

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Remember this one? – The Things You Would Have Said

22 May 2019

The Things You Would Have Said by Jackie Hooper is a stunning little book. Under two hundred pages, it doesn’t need more words to get the point across. The best things…

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Ghost Whisperer – What festers below the surface?

18 May 201919 May 2019

It will not surprise you to know that during 2014: My Year of Pain I gravitated toward mostly-spiritual television. I've already talked about Being Erica. Today, I will be talking about…

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Bio Moment – Double Stick Purple Popsicles

10 May 2019

Thank you all for your good thoughts and patience as I've tried to get over this nasty bug. Honest to God - worst bug ever! It's been exactly three weeks…

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