pain – The Self-Help Whisperer®

An Essay – Self-Help From a Stranger

11 Apr 2022

I work for a bank, taking incoming calls about credit cards. My goal is to impart information and wisdom. I sigh to myself sometimes... like when I ask for a…

From My Bookshelf…

Bio-Moment – Not Just Me. Right?

20 Feb 2022

I’m not okay. Are you okay? I mean, yeah, sure, masked faces are a familiar sight, as is hand sanitizer, arrows on the floor, and statistics about how many have…

Self-Help Whispering

Bio-Moment – Meet Sherry

16 Feb 202216 Feb 2022

As you can see, you have entered the halls of my teeny, tiny art gallery. My inner child is in charge of this one... her name is Sherry, which is…

Self-Help Whispering

Bio Moment – Soften My Heart

14 Dec 2021

Last week, I went to the ER for stitches after a nasty cut. I mentioned it HERE, if interested. While in the ER, I was exceedingly careful, given that I…

From My Bookshelf

Greenlights – Not a Fan?

9 Oct 2021

I never liked the young Matthew McConaughey's acting, appearance, or personality. You know how some people just rub you the wrong way? (And here, I would be remiss not to…

From My Bookshelf

What Happened to You? – That is the question

4 May 2021

Many books claim to be life-changers but few live up to the promise. Let me give you a head's up about What Happened to You? by Bruce D. Perry, MD,…

From My Bookshelf

Remember this one?* – How Did I Get Here?

22 Apr 2021

Sometimes I love being with people. Sometimes I flee from company and bear only silence. Sometimes I am sure people see my gifts, my wisdom and my light. Sometimes I think people…

Self-Help Whispering

My Prayer Beads – Or: How I wrenched my back

1 Feb 20211 Feb 2021

Make gifts meaningful by putting the time in creating them, whether baking and cooking, or in making arts and craft. It will all have more meaning for the giver and…

Self-Help Whispering

Bio Moment – No more faces!

26 Aug 202027 Aug 2020

There is so much to say! First of all, I've been following a woman on Facebook who has lost 195 pounds using the Keto way of eating. She's interesting for…

From My Bookshelf

Remember this one? – Migraine

19 May 202019 May 2020

Ann Redfearn’s Migraine is one of my books with little post-it arrows sticking out, marking important pages. It’s not a big book like the Fibro book I talked about last month. It’s small…

From My Bookshelf

Remember this one? – “Fibromyalgia & Chronic Myofascial Pain”

21 Mar 2020

I remember the first time I mentioned to my doctor that I believe I have Fibromyalgia. She rolled her eyes. I stopped as I wrote that last part, about her…

Self-Help Whispering

Easy like Sunday – Some stuff I noticed this week

18 Aug 201912 Aug 2020

It's been a while since we've had a little sit-down chat... so here I am... sitting. :) Grab a cuppa and join me, won't you? If April showers bring May…

Self-Help Whispering

Easy like Sunday – A single moment in the life of an Empath

30 Jun 201912 Aug 2020

Possible trigger warning: Animal Cruelty. Subject and mild description only. No photos. I saw the photo on my Facebook feed. I ticked it "Hide post" because I couldn't bear to…

Self-Help Whispering

Remember this one? – Yesterday, I Cried

7 Jun 2019

Addendum 06/07/2019: I normally just copy/paste and be done with the "Remember this one?" posts but today, I am marvelling in the fact that I didn't write more about this…

Self-Help Whispering

Remember this one? – A Shining Affliction

26 Apr 2019

I feel your pain... … because it’s my story and my pain, too. I’ve always wondered how psychotherapists, psychiatrists and social workers live after hearing about catastrophic abuses. I get…

Self-Help Whispering

Easy like Sunday – DON’T GO THERE! (This flies in the face of everything I’ve read about healing trauma.)

21 Apr 201912 Aug 2020

As many of you know, my mother is a Dr. Mom (Ph.D. Jungian therapist) and I respect her immensely. She has been my guru and my muse on many-a-post(s) here.…

Self-Help Whispering

Remember this one? – When Parents Hurt

22 Mar 20195 Aug 2019

When Parents Hurt by Joshua Coleman, Ph.D. is a book of ouchies. Big ones. By the time you need it, there is a history… a dance… that has been going…

From My Bookshelf

A Series – The Tapping Solution – Part 1

9 Mar 201915 Sep 2021

Something disappointing happened this last week. Well, disappointing is probably too light a word... it was ... kind of ... devistating. Through it, an interesting thing happened and it is…

From My Bookshelf

After the Affair – I hope you NEVER need this book!

6 Feb 20199 Oct 2019

“Dr. Spring possesses a remarkable combination of clarity, wisdom, spirit, and heart. This is an extremely helpful and healing book—a gift to us all.” —Harriet Lerner, Ph.D., author of The Dance of…

Self-Help Whispering

Remember this one? – Second Sight – The Isle of Avalon

28 Nov 201828 Nov 2018

It was my mother, once again*, who introduced me to the work of this author and her books. Judith Orloff, M.D. is a doctor (you noticed the M.D.?) and yet, she acknowledges…

From My Bookshelf

Emotional Blackmail – Return to Sender

19 Nov 20189 Oct 2019

Thank GOD and all that is holy, I no longer deal with people who use fear, obligation or guilt to manipulate me! But at one time... or two, or ten...…

From My Bookshelf

Forgive & Forget – Forget? I think not!

16 Nov 20189 Oct 2019

“If we wait to forgive people until they say they are sorry we make ourselves hostages to the very person who wronged us to begin with...” - Lewis B. SmedesForgive &…

Self-Help Whispering

Remember this one? – Her Name, Titanic

13 Nov 2018

My love of all-things Titanic began when I was a child. My grandparents had one of those pictorial history books that Life Magazine put out. It was a coffee table book; hard-cover, glossy and…

From My Bookshelf

Elizabeth Taylor: A Passion for Life – Wisdom & Fluff

24 Oct 201823 Jan 2021

"I believe people are like rocks formed by the weather. We're formed by experience, by heartache, by grief, by mistakes, by guilt, by shame--all the things that psychiatrists would like…

Interviews

Teaser for Upcoming Interview – Josh: You may say he’s a grief dreamer

7 Oct 20183 Feb 2019

Hey, you guys... you're gonna love my next interview! What can I say about a young man with an old soul who I only met because of serendipity? Several years…

Self-Help Whispering

Bio Moment – When pain feels better than not feeling at all

27 Sep 201827 Sep 2018

Subtitle: Sometimes, I have no idea what I'm talking about. Today may be one of those days. Carry on! On December 5, last year, I wrote a post about anxiety.…

From My Bookshelf

YouTube Tuesdays – True to you!

28 Aug 201813 May 2021

Yes, this has been just as difficult and scary as it was the very first time, five weeks ago. Yes, I hate the thumbnail but no, I can't change it...…

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Bio Moment – Be still, my breaking heart

27 Aug 2018

This morning, I took a photo of a beautiful flower, its face to the sun. Well, as much as this flower could reach to the sun, given it popped up…

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Easy like Sunday – Deep Dive

12 Aug 201812 Aug 2020

I'm reading a book my mother recommended. At first, I was like... wow!... and all over it. I could hardly wait to read and then share it with you! Then.…

From My Bookshelf

Back in Control – As promised!

17 Jul 201822 Feb 2021

I've committed a grievous sin against book and book-lover. Forgive me! This book is only one week old and already, it's marked up, highlighted, and has colorful post-it arrows sticking…

From My Bookshelf

Fibromyalgia & Chronic Myofascial Pain – A Wellness Toolbox

29 May 20189 Oct 2019

I remember the first time I mentioned to my doctor that I believe I have Fibromyalgia. She rolled her eyes. I stopped as I wrote that last part, about her…

Self-Help Whispering

Bio Moment – Let yourself fall ill

19 Mar 201819 Mar 2018

“If you desire healing, let yourself fall ill let yourself fall ill.” ― Rumi When I began this blog, I didn't think I'd need a fancy Mission Statement. Self-Help Whisperer =…

From My Bookshelf

I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings – The Poet’s Gift

14 Feb 20189 Oct 2019

A selection from: Still I Rise by Maya Angelou (1928 - 2014) You may write me down in history With your bitter, twisted lies, You may trod me in the very dirt But…

From My Bookshelf

Yesterday, I Cried – And it’s okay

5 Feb 20189 Oct 2019

Iyanla Vanzant is famous now... but when I first knew of her, she was a empowerment coach and co-facilitator on one of my favorite television shows called Starting Over. I wrote…

From My Bookshelf

When Parents Hurt – You won’t need it ’til you need it. And then you’ll REALLY need it!

10 Jan 20189 Oct 2019

When Parents Hurt by Joshua Coleman, Ph.D. is a book of ouchies. Big ones. By the time you need it, there is a history... a dance... that has been going…

Self-Help Whispering

Easy like Sunday – ‘Twas the Night Before Christmas

24 Dec 201712 Aug 2020

With apologies to Clement Clarke Moore... and a head’s up: This is a much-abbreviated, chopped-up, mushy version written by me, for you: 'Twas the night before Christmas, and all was…

Self-Help Whispering

Easy like Sunday – The Library

5 Nov 201712 Aug 2020

One thing I've often done -- and it has been the death knell for my blogs -- is to insist (to myself) that I will write daily. This blog will…

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