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Help Yourself – Indeed!

28 Jul 2021

-- Trigger Warning - Child Abuse. No specific details given. -- Dave Pelzer is a study in perseverance and resilience. The three books I read before this one (A Child…

Self-Help Whispering

Bio Moment – Dreams and Feathers

27 Jul 202127 Jul 2021

As you may remember, I LOVE dreaming and the messages I get from nighttime dramas. When something is trying to get my attention, I dream about it - over and…

From My Bookshelf

Toxic Friends – Falling to pieces

20 Jul 202120 Jul 2021

July 20, 2021 Up for reblog is one of my more ... ugh-ish though excellent books. After reading through this post again, I only have one question: WHY DO WOMEN…

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Bio Moment – Migraines & Misdemeanors

14 Jul 202114 Jul 2021

For the first time in almost six weeks, I didn't walk today. It feels like I've broken the law. I woke up with a migraine but really, I need to…

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Grieving is Like a Lava Lamp – Field Notes and Gratitude

9 Jul 2021

Earlier this week, I received a completely-unexpected gift in the mail. Inside the package was a little wooden coin engraved with "Dad" on one side and a lantern on the…

From My Bookshelf

After the Ecstasy, the Laundry -A Modern Spiritual Journey

7 Jul 20217 Jul 2021

July 7, 2021 Interesting reblog we have here. I have written 1096 posts since this gig began and the original post about this book is number three in popularity! It's…

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When I Am an Old Woman I Shall Wear Purple – Dear Mumsie

5 Jul 2021

Like many of my finds, this book showed up on the shelves of one of my fave thrift stores. Actually, it is my ABSOLUTE FAVE but it's also far enough…

From My Bookshelf

Reviving Ophelia – Be everything, be nothing

3 Jul 20213 Jul 2021

July 3, 2021 Up for reblog today is a necessary and poignant book that broke my heart a little when I read it. Why? That would take longer to answer...…

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The Wind in the Willows – A Gift for Our Inner Child

28 Jun 202128 Jun 2021

“When the girl returned, some hours later, she carried a tray, with a cup of fragrant tea steaming on it; and a plate piled up with very hot buttered toast,…

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Making Sense of the Men in Your Life – Oh, brother!

16 Jun 202116 Jun 2021

June 16, 2021 Up for reblog today.... It didn't NEED to be but it WAS the most ridiculous book I've ever reviewed. Read at your own risk. Seriously.

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The December Project – Lightness & Grace

10 Jun 202110 Jun 2021

June 10, 2021 In case you haven't noticed, I'm no longer sharing books I've written about previously as "Remember this one?" posts. Once I figured out how to actually (officially)…

From My Bookshelf

Getting the Love You Want -It doesn’t just happen

5 Jun 20215 Jun 2021

June 5, 2021 Up for reblog is one of my most EXCELLENT books about building a fab relationship & marriage! Yay! Is your relationship/marriage good? Want to make it better?…

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Mother’s Day 2021 – Amethyst Caves

9 May 20219 May 2021

If I could write a poem for you It wouldn’t rhyme... It would instead dance merrily Through amethyst caves. Lights would twinkle around it And through it And there you…

From My Bookshelf

Remember this one?* – How to Argue and Win Every Time

3 May 2021

And *this guy* knows a thing or two! “He has never lost a criminal case either as a prosecutor or a defense attorney. He has not lost a civil case…

Interviews

Interview – Patricia Call: Renaissance Woman

28 Mar 202128 Mar 2021

We first met Patricia Call in my shameless teaser about this interview HERE. I'm going to begin this interview by telling you that this one will be a little different than all…

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Grief 101: Recover from Grief Website

23 Mar 202123 Mar 2021

I miss my dad. I find myself trying not to think about him because whenever I do, I'm sobbing. I know how very lucky and blessed I was to have…

Interviews

Teaser for Upcoming Interview – Patricia: A Change is Gonna Come!

21 Mar 202121 Mar 2021

“To improve is to change; to be perfect is to change often.” -Winston Churchill I've known Patricia for more than two decades, though we've never met in person. Such is the…

From My Bookshelf

Remember this one? – Emotional Blackmail

19 Mar 2021

Thank GOD and all that is holy, I no longer deal with people who use fear, obligation or guilt to manipulate me! But at one time… or two, or ten……

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Me (Stories of My Life) – Shades of Grey

12 Mar 202129 Mar 2021

If I were an autobiography in search of an excellent autobiography to emulate... Me (Stories of My Life) by Katharine Hepburn would be the book I'd turn to. It is…

From My Bookshelf

Love, Life & Lucille – A life well lived with ribbons

11 Mar 202111 Mar 2021

My theory is that those at the very beginning and those near the end of life hold a special bond. It's almost as if they're so close to heaven, they…

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Easy like Sunday – Ships (that pass in the night)

7 Mar 202117 Mar 2021

My husband hates Barry Manilow. Me? I loved the song Copacabana. <<< I was such a disco queen! And his Christmas album. Oh, I kinda liked Mandy. Alright, leave me…

From My Bookshelf

Remember this one?* – Forgive & Forget

6 Mar 2021

“If we wait to forgive people until they say they are sorry we make ourselves hostages to the very person who wronged us to begin with…” – Lewis B. Smedes Forgive…

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Remember this one? – When a Parent is Depressed

5 Feb 20216 Feb 2021

In the interest of honesty, I almost didn’t write today. I did a “Remember this one?” post yesterday and skipped the day before. Here I go again… into the spiral…

From My Bookshelf

Fiction as Self-Help – The Secret, Book & Scone Society

2 Feb 2021

As soon as the healing takes place, go out and heal somebody else. - Maya Angelou The Secret, Book & Scone Society by Ellery Adams is the first in a…

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Bio Moment – Not a barn burner

26 Jan 202111 Feb 2021

I woke up in the middle of the night. Again!! Why? Well... I have a reason! Listen to this! Forgive the blur but it was 1:26 am. Half-asleep, I felt…

From My Bookshelf

Remember this one?* – Boundaries (Where You End and I Begin)

20 Jan 202124 Jan 2021

**Trigger Warning: Mention (without details) of childhood sexual abuse** There are many, many books on Boundaries. Most are very good. Just to give you an idea of how many there…

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Sacred Contracts – Jumping off a cliff

16 Jan 202122 Feb 2021

“Our individual souls hum actively within a kind of global soul comprising all life on the planet. Our words, thoughts, deeds, and visions influence our individual health just as they…

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When it all gets to be too much – Barbie takes flight

15 Jan 202115 Jan 2021

Yeah, I know, adult coloring is soooooo last year! Well, head's up, Buttercup. In my house(s) ... it's been "a thing" since... oh... FOREVER. Funny story: I've always been this…

From My Bookshelf

Remember this one?* – Jung’s Struggle with Freud

14 Jan 2021

This probably goes without saying, but Jung’s Struggle With Freud by George B. Hogenson is about Carl Gustav Jung and Sigmund Freud. It was published in 1983 and was a real barn-burner. Since then, many…

From My Bookshelf

Bradshaw On: The Family – Best of the best!

12 Jan 2021

“We have no alternative. We must break the sacred rule and question these rules because unless we talk about them, there is no way out. We must evaluate them in…

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And a Merry, Happy, Joyful, Loving, Sparkling, Healthy, Healing Christmas Eve to YOU!

24 Dec 202024 Dec 2020

Snow's-a-comin' this way!! Can I get a whoop-whoop? The holidays have been difficult for me since moving to Canada (read: stomach-tugging, family-missing-difficult). I've never been able to spend it with…

Photography…

Picture of the Day – A gift from the man who holds my heart

19 Dec 2020

Happy birthday to me! My husband, the consummate, thoughty, gift-giver who has presented me with some beauts over the years. My gifts are usually deeply meaningful. This time, he went…

From My Bookshelf

Remember this one?* – 10% Happier

19 Dec 202029 Dec 2020

"But it was in this moment, lying in bed late at night, that I first realized that the voice in my head—the running commentary that had dominated my field of…

From My Bookshelf

Family Secrets – It’s not like it used to be

9 Dec 2020

John Bradshaw was not a newcomer to the self-help landscape when this book came out, nor is he a newbie here on my site, as I've written about a couple…

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Bio Moment – The Smith’s

30 Nov 202017 Mar 2021

When my first husband and I married, back in 1980, we were both very lucky to have many of our grandparents except my dad's father, who'd passed away the previous…

Photography

Picture of the Day -“Wish you were here!”

26 Nov 2020

Happy Thanksgiving, all my American peeps! My husband and I celebrate both the Canadian holiday and the American one ... so that means I get pumpkin pie today!!!

From My Bookshelf

Remember this one?* – The Happiness Project

25 Nov 2020

It was a "Heather's Pick". Who the heck IS this Heather at my local bookseller? I picture her small and stooped over, with sexy librarian glasses and orthopedic shoes. She…

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Easy like Sunday – Stormy Daze

15 Nov 202016 Nov 2020

It's a VERY stormy day today! The winds are so strong it feels as if the house will blow down. We've been so lucky over the last two weeks with…

From My Bookshelf

Remember this one?* – The Gentle Art of Verbal Self-Defense

14 Nov 202014 Nov 2020

Dont get me wrong. The Gentle Art of Verbal Self-Defense by Suzette Haden Elgin is excellent. It’s just that… well… come with me and we’ll get where I’m going. I’ve read (what…

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Remember this one?* – Undoing Depression

12 Nov 2020

I love the subtitle of Richard O’Connor’s Undoing Depression: “What Therapy Doesn’t Teach You and Medication Can’t Give You”… because… it’s always felt to me that there was something… some component… that…

From My Bookshelf

Now With You Now Without – The Question

9 Nov 202010 Nov 2020

My friend Roger told me about this book. Can I just stop for a moment and gush on serendipity? If it weren't for my dearest, long-time friend Betsy, who saved…

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Remember this one?* – Resilience

5 Nov 2020

In her final words, she said that “in the simple act of living with hope, and in the daily effort to have a positive impact in the world, the days…

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