self-awareness – The Self-Help Whisperer®

Was I surprised to see Self-Care for Men by Garrett Munce on a sale table for $2? No. No, I wasn't. Why? Because most men I've known would rather poke…

Self-Help Whispering

Picture(s) of the Day – The Last Ten Days

10 Sep 2021

Friends and readers, I've had a bit of a bumpy ride over the last little while. It started with my new shoes. Turns out that memory foam and floofy-ness on…

From My Bookshelf

The Enneagram Guide to Waking Up – Set Your Alarm! Worth it!

1 Sep 2021

The name Enneagram comes from the Greek: Ennea is the Greek word for nine and Gramma means something that’s drawn or written. (Link) This book was sent to me to…

Photography

Picture(s) of the Day – I got new shoes and where they took me :-)

31 Aug 202131 Aug 2021

I have been wearing my falling apart running shoes to walk since I began this health journey in June. There are holes in them, as I’ve worn them for at…

Self-Help Whispering

2021: Year of Rebuilding – How it’s going

30 Aug 202130 Aug 2021

If you've been around here for a while, you know that every year I choose a word to live by... and for 2021 it is "Rebuilding". Fairly early in the…

From My Bookshelf

The Power of Now – “Cut them off with a sharp knife!”

11 Aug 202125 Aug 2021

“Time isn’t precious at all, because it is an illusion. What you perceive as precious is not time but the one point that is out of time: the Now. That…

Self-Help Whispering

Learning to Read – Me & Duffy Brown

6 Aug 20216 Aug 2021

Yesterday, I was wrong. There's a first for everything! LOL I thought I was headed into a depression. It made no sense (for reasons I shared in -or is it…

From My Bookshelf

What Mama Taught Me – This Book is a Lighthouse

2 Aug 20212 Aug 2021

In doing research for today's book, I read a ton about the author Tony Brown, host of the longest-running series on PBS - Tony Brown's Journal. So, what I guess…

Self-Help Whispering

Health Accountability & Encouragement #2

21 Jul 202113 Aug 2021

August 7 - 2,370 Getting back to it but not yet 100% well. Had a good day, though! August 6 - 0 I was wrong yesterday. Read about it HERE.…

From My Bookshelf

Stop Self-Sabotage – I Was an Expert!

16 Jul 202117 Jul 2021

I could give you a million-trillion-and-one different examples of how I self-sabotaged myself, from childhood until sixty. I am not being dramatic or exaggerating, I assure you! As one who…

From My Bookshelf

If the Buddha Came to Dinner – Get out the good china!

25 Jun 202125 Jun 2021

June 25, 2021 This is a GREAT reblog! This book was thoughtful and thought-provoking! What IS nourishment? Why are we so emotionally connected to food? Everything about this little book…

From My Bookshelf

The Prosperous Heart – The Phosphorus Heart?

23 Jun 202127 Jun 2021

Julia Cameron is no stranger to this blog... or to me. The Artist's Way is a classic, and so is Cameron. The Prosperous Heart is about something entirely different. And…

From My Bookshelf

You Were Not Born to Suffer – It’s about time!

9 Jun 20219 Jun 2021

As many of you know, up until the last few weeks, I was mired in a bout of depression triggered by the death of my beloved dad - AND -…

Self-Help Whispering

Finding Joe – The Hero’s Journey & Bliss

2 Jun 2021

“The journey of the hero is about the courage to seek the depths; the image of creative rebirth; the eternal cycle of change within us; the uncanny discovery that the seeker is the mystery…

From My Bookshelf

Remember this one?* – Who Moved My Cheese?

26 May 2021

Every day, I would drive home from work thinking about what I would write here. Sometimes, I’d get things sorted before I walked in the door. Sometimes, it would come…

From My Bookshelf

Your Money or Your Life – You get what you deserve?

18 May 202118 May 2021

Don’t ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive, and go do it. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive. - Howard Thurman…

From My Bookshelf

Remember this one?* – The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck

7 May 2021

Self-improvement and success often occur together. But that doesn’t necessarily mean they’re the same thing. – Mark Manson He was a loser. […] He never tried to be anything other…

From My Bookshelf

Remember this one?* – How to Argue and Win Every Time

3 May 2021

And *this guy* knows a thing or two! “He has never lost a criminal case either as a prosecutor or a defense attorney. He has not lost a civil case…

Self-Help Whispering

Getting to the root – Self-Sabotage

15 Mar 202115 Mar 2021

"I’m a self-saboteur who walked away from not one but two heartfelt-others-serving jobs. I crashed emotionally after each one. I now realize that other things were going on and I…

From My Bookshelf

Remember this one?*- Rich Dad, Poor Dad

8 Feb 2021

I find so many people struggling, often working harder, simply because they cling to old ideas. They want things to be the way they were; they resist change. I know…

Self-Help Whispering

Bio Moment – Who do you think you’re fooling?

4 Feb 20214 Feb 2021

Last night, in that space between awake and asleep, I thought of this phrase... Who do you think you're fooling? And I heard a voice... You're not special. You never…

Self-Help Whispering

The Mane Event – But also, NOT (about hair, that is!)

4 Jan 20214 Jan 2021

Allow me to introduce you to my Hair Valet, shown in my featured photo. I call it my "Hair Valet" because it allows me to do my hair without so-much-as…

Self-Help Whispering

Bio Moment – Self Portrait, if I were a butterfly

22 Dec 202022 Dec 2020

Today I sat down to draw a butterfly. But let me begin at the beginning. Beginning. Ah yes, butterflies and new beginnings. So perfect. Yes? I've always loved butterflies. I…

From My Bookshelf

Remember this one?* – 10% Happier

19 Dec 202029 Dec 2020

"But it was in this moment, lying in bed late at night, that I first realized that the voice in my head—the running commentary that had dominated my field of…

From My Bookshelf

Remember this one?* – Ordinarily Well

1 Dec 2020

Ordinarily Well by Peter D. Kramer is about antidepressants. More to the point, it is about if they work. Kramer is not merely a bystander… he is a psychiatrist and scholar.…

Interviews

Interview – Kathryn Leigh Scott: Supernatural Beauty

28 Nov 202028 Nov 2020

We first met Kathryn Leigh Scott in my post about her beautiful book HERE and then later, in my shameless teaser about this interview HERE. With everything we learned in…

From My Bookshelf

Remember this one?* – The Happiness Project

25 Nov 2020

It was a "Heather's Pick". Who the heck IS this Heather at my local bookseller? I picture her small and stooped over, with sexy librarian glasses and orthopedic shoes. She…

From My Bookshelf

Remember this one?* – The Gentle Art of Verbal Self-Defense

14 Nov 202014 Nov 2020

Dont get me wrong. The Gentle Art of Verbal Self-Defense by Suzette Haden Elgin is excellent. It’s just that… well… come with me and we’ll get where I’m going. I’ve read (what…

From My Bookshelf

Remember this one?* – Undoing Depression

12 Nov 2020

I love the subtitle of Richard O’Connor’s Undoing Depression: “What Therapy Doesn’t Teach You and Medication Can’t Give You”… because… it’s always felt to me that there was something… some component… that…

Photography…

Picture of the Day – A Haiku- “Hello darkness, my old friend”

1 Nov 20201 Nov 2020

Alone with his thoughts Deep inside his hoodie world The darkness lives there.

Self-Help Whispering

Leaning In – Profile Photo Edition

31 Oct 202031 Oct 2020

Something happened this morning... It is "nothing about me" and "everything about me" ... and "everything about you," too. Let's see what you think! Good Ol' Facebook asked that you…

Self-Help Whispering

Bio Moment – A long story & A bonus musing at the end

29 Oct 20207 Dec 2020

Facebook is so kind to bring up memories from past years. Sometimes funny, sometimes poignant, always a peek into what was going on in my head that same day last…

From My Bookshelf

Hillbilly Elegy – The American Dream

26 Oct 202026 Oct 2020

Today's offering is not a self-help book but in typical Sheryl-fashion, I found threads that connect. Hillbilly Elegy by JD Vance is a deeply authentic, heartbreaking book... even though our…

From My Bookshelf

Dougall Fraser – Color YOUR World

9 Oct 202015 Sep 2021

From My Bookshelf

Remember this one?* – The Hero Within

8 Oct 20208 Oct 2020

No matter how much people want to feel loved, appreciated, and a part of things, they will be lonely until they make a commitment to themselves, a commitment that is…

From My Bookshelf

Remember this one?* – This is Me

3 Oct 2020

"Honeybees are meaningful to me because technically they’re not supposed to be able to fly. We know they do, but in the 1930s, French scientists ‘proved’ they couldn’t. Their reasoning…

Photography…

Bio Moment – “Another path, another journey”

2 Oct 2020

Did I tell you that I prayed, meditated and even pulled cards in my quest to find the answer to the question: Is it the right time to go back…

Photography…

Picture(s) of the Day – “A Hidden Gem” (And an update!)

29 Sep 20209 Oct 2020

For those of you following along with my recent life events, you will notice that I am here in the middle of a work day sharing photos I snapped only…

From My Bookshelf

Remember this one?* – Daring Greatly

28 Sep 202027 Sep 2020

I have read, seen and heard Brené Brown so many times that I get confused as to whether I’m talking about her Daring Greatly book (or one of her many others), her TEDx talks, her FB page or her interviews…

From My Bookshelf

Remember this one?* – Emotional Intelligence

17 Sep 2020

My IQ is modest. My common-sense is pretty-much nil. But my emotional intelligence? Well, let’s just say it works better than the other two combined. Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Goleman is the kind…

From My Bookshelf

Remember this one? – I’m OK – You’re OK

12 Sep 2020

“Three things make people want to change. One is that they hurt sufficiently. They have beat their heads against the same wall so long that they decide they have had…

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